Hello,
Hope you’re feeling good.
I can assure you that you’re definitely feeling better than me.
Earlier in the afternoon, an intern made a mistake.
I got angry. And was quite vocal about my disappointment.
Perhaps she felt bad.
Probably she’ll learn from it and never repeat it.
But what about me?
We focus so much on the subject of the anger, that we forget the initiator.
Why did I get angry?
I can argue that I’m short tempered and it’s a habit now. But despite knowing that it’s not a good thing, why did this habit continue, let alone form?
I don’t think anyone enjoys getting angry. Do you?
But we still can’t give it up? Why?
This is why I feel we feel angry.
We desire stuff. Expect/want things to go our way.
Because we feel that only when things are a certain way that we’ll be happy.
And when the opposite person doesn’t stick to the script you made in your mind, the boiler goes – *boom*
The opposite person not adhering to your version of happiness causes too much pain.
Anger is just an attempt to transfer that pain to the opposite person.
Not effective at all, yet centuries later we are all trying the same method.
If you stop expecting/ wanting things to be a certain way, you won’t get angry.
If you start believing that you can be happy even when things aren’t going your way, you won’t get angry.
To sum it up: we get angry because our definition and understanding of happiness is flawed.
What do you think?
